We have tried it all…all of it. We have tried singing lullabies. We have tried the Jo Frost solution – um…sorry that one really didn’t work. We have tried punishments (oh, that one is awful!). We tried essential oils. We tried massage. We did it all.
A. L. L.
We even tried that new “magical” book – the second night she refused to listen to it. And nothing helped our oldest toddler get to bed easily. She is a fighter. She is always up and ready to go. She’s the one who gets a full 40 minutes and is ready to go for the rest of the night. So, I am always on the hunt for the next toddler sleep solution. And I will try just about anything.
But, I finally came up with a sleep routine that helps my toddler wind down enough to be still and [most nights] get to sleep quickly. Continue Reading
Recently, we went to bed the parents of two girls under 2 and woke up the parents of a sweet 8 month old and a toddler with a bit of an attitude problem – ha! No really, our oldest is not crazy on the terrible twos, but we did notice an attitude adjustment was in order.
We suddenly heard, “No!” and, “I don’t like it!” a lot more than we had just a few days earlier. And we had some interesting conversations when we heard these things.
But it was a few days into this new, “I don’t like it!” phase that my husband brought my formerly amenable and agreeable toddler in to wake me up after an afternoon nap with a tantrum…on my bed! Yes…on MY bed. As I sleepily tried to come up with a way to stop the madness, an idea struck me and I lunged at it. And it worked! And it has continued to work – even though we kind of are getting past the, “I don’t like it!” (to everything) stage.
“What is it?”
I remembered what my child does like and tried to remind her of them with a game she likes.
We played hide and seek with her “likes.”
I jumped up off the bed. Looked at her (screaming, crying, beautiful mess that she was at that moment) and I asked her, “Where did your likes go?” Then I set out looking for them out loud. I walked into the bathroom and looked high and low for her likes. “Are they in here…no, I don’t see them.”
I walked into the closet and searched out those elusive likes.
I came back to find my toddler a little bit quieter and asked her, “Where are your likes?” I told her they were not in the bathroom or the closet. Then I asked her if they were in her room. She got up, stopped crying, started walking into her room.
Suddenly she had a new thing to do!
We walked all around the house, upstairs, downstairs looking for those likes.
And we found them, hiding downstairs! Once we got downstairs I asked her if she liked her favorite toys.
I asked her if she liked Mama (a previous target of, “I don’t like it!”),
I asked her if she liked Dada (another victim).
And then we celebrated. “Yea! We found G’s likes! We found her likes! Yea! She likes [her toys], she likes Mama, she likes, Dada! Yea!”
That is more like it!
And the tantrum was over! Forgotten! Success!
Do you have any creative parenting ideas? Solutions to the problems we face with toddlers? I would love to hear them! Please share!
This entry is part 14 of 33 in the series Baby Days
Are you like we were as new parents? Absolutely in love with this precious bundle with perfect, soft skin. Do you spend hours just sitting and watching her sleep, dream, goo, gah, and generally be perfect?
Well, you might be surprised like we were to wake up one morning (ok, it was probably the middle of the night) to see your sweet, perfectly skinned little one with tiny red spots. It starts out small, almost imperceptible. Then the spots multiply and redden. Then they spread over the entire surface of baby’s face! And if you are a new parent, you will start to wonder if she is having some sort of allergic reaction. You will search on the internet and find all sorts of horrifying skin ailments and try to compare it to your baby’s current state of red bumpy-ness.
I was the happy recipient of a “scholarship” to our local cooking school (thanks, Dad and Mom) a couple of years back and it has made an amazing impact on my time in the kitchen.
I started with the baking course and followed it up with the cooking course. And though the classes are really not related in many more ways than being in the kitchen and using ingredients (baking is a science, whereas cooking is improvisation on processes), there is one common thing that makes being in the kitchen (whether cooking or baking): preparation.
The French call it mis en place (roughly translated “everything in place”). Continue Reading