OK, so I fell out of habit yesterday a little bit and had to tackle a sink full of dishes and some heavier sweeping than normal (also we had a toddler who didn’t want to keep the latest sensory bin material in the sensory bin), but I got right back on that horse and rode today. Got it all done and feel great about it.
Today, inspired by Dana White’s 28 Days to Hope for Your Home (affiliate link) entry for Day 17, I am going to talk about something a little controversial. I welcome the discussion if you totally disagree with me and think I am crazy, but hear me out.
In the entry today, Dana talks about the frustration many of us homemakers feel when we work so hard to get it all done and not only is it not noticed, but no one in the house gets the hint and starts picking up after themselves. She is specifically speaking of her kids (I think) and wanting (of course) to teach them to be clean and neat, to pick up after themselves. But she reminds us that we are just starting out on this journey
Ummm, remember what it looked like on Day Fifteen? That’s what they think a bathroom is supposed to look like. They think you’re okay with that, because you were.
AND we should not wait to clean until later (when we can instruct and cajole them into cleaning up after themselves) because that is what we have been doing to get our homes so out-of-order: WAITING! Procrastination (and laziness, too) has been the biggest contributor to our frustration as homemakers.
But I love the implication present in Dana’s instructions to us “Do it yourself.” Present in that statement is the idea that we have to start with ourselves. If we want our homes to be a place of hope, we must be proactive, we must take action and do it in the moment. We can always help the others in our homes to learn to do and how to do the tasks we are making habits, but we have to do them first ourselves!
And although I think Dana is talking mostly about her kids in regards to cleaning, I know I am often tempted to get frustrated with my husband in the same area. I kind of find myself thinking I need help around here, forgetting that my role is the helper to my husband. He is not my helper and he is not my charge. And I believe God has blessed me with the opportunity to help him by making our home a haven for him at the end of the day, not a place where he checks in to get a list of honey-dos and constant nagging to keep things picked up. I can gladly, as his helper, pick up after him, wash his dishes, and do his laundry. When I am doing these things I have the opportunity to serve him rather than supervise him. I have the opportunity to help him rather than hound him. I have the opportunity to bless him.
So, as you are checking that bathroom for clutter today, take a look in the mirror and see if the frustration you have with your home (or even those in your home) could be fixed by working on the person staring back at you. And then go wash your dishes! 🙂
What do you think? Do you get frustrated with the others in your home not picking up after themselves? Have you been wondering when we were going to get to the part where we teach others to do this for us?